Today’s post is more of a ‘did you know’. I was looking up information on the pharmaceutical industry and just happened to stumble across these gems !

So according to Merriam-Webster pharmacy is the art, practice, or profession of preparing, preserving, compounding, and dispensing medical drugs. I also found the tidbit that in Great Britain it’s called the Chemist’s instead !

Before the pharmacy’s that we see today, there were apothecaries which is pretty gnarly. That’s where we get the visual of some wizard looking dude with a beard grinding up herbs with mortar and pestle.

Then I somehow came across entheogens. This is the use of drugs in religion and other spiritual rituals. Interesting. We mainly associate this with, although not by name, NativeAmericanss. We’ve seen portrayed through the media them sitting around in a drum circle with a bonfire with a hookah about to have a crazy vision quest. Psychadelic. There was also this notion of entheogens being used for evil in the form of mind control and brainwashing.

Through more digging, I found tons of religious sites that pointed to the fact that drugs were commonly used in pagan worship to prophesy. One site said that only witches and sorcerers used drugs 400 years ago. They did not, however, define what makes a witch or a sorcerer.

On the particular religious site I linked, it used the scripture Galatians 5:20. It stated that the English word ‘spiritism’ stems from the greek word  ‘pharmakos’. Apparently, pharmakos meant sorcery OR “a ritualistic sacrifice or exile of scapegoat.” The Greeks would take an ugly man, feed him well, then beat him in the dick and stone him either to death or almost to death. Classy. Occasionally an ugly woman or some other undesirable citizen was chosen. The purpose of this was to sacrifice something to the gods so they could rid their bad luck. No clue what this has to do with drugs but cool.

I also found that the word alcohol being referred to as spirits is equivalent to the Arabic word al-gawl which means demon or spirit in the holy Quran.

Everything else in this post is just totally my opinion. It seems that in the olden days (referring to everything before 7:36 am, April 12, 1991) it seems like everything that wasn’t understood was deemed demonized. As human nature, when we don’t know things, we make something up. Witchcraft and sorcery were the wave and the go to back then.

Also, most everything I’ve ever researched in depth seems to have root in paganism. Paganism is generally described as anything that isn’t part of the world’s main religions, especially non-Christians. It reminds me of Jews and Gentiles. Basically blaming paganism and referring to paganism just means “you’re not just like me so you’re bad and irrational.” Almost anything can be referred to as paganism if you try hard enough. So that’s pretty absurd.

Lastly, the whole issue of drugs being used to expand the mind and to transcend and open another realm is wild. Often too in research drugs have been linked to root words that imply poison. Medicines, on the other hand, are strongly linked to herbs. This is especially intriguing to me because the reason I started researching the pharm industry is because in my work as a health care professional, I was very disturbed seeing very young patients look so sickly while taking 35 pills a day that are all treating diet-related illnesses. (I acknowledge that was a crazy run on sentence.) It seems that we are still at a point in time where drugs and medicine are used interchangeably and don’t match what’s legal and illegal. Things that require copious amounts of drugs are 100% preventable and can be cured if one just ate a proper diet and moved around a little more. More about that later.

But if you take anything from this, be careful what you put in your body. Research everything doctors suggest and eat a balanced diet. Many times we are prescribed unnecessary poisons that are really making us even sicker.

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Radical Forgiveness

About a 7 minute read.

Radical. adjective. relating to or affecting the fundamental nature of something. advocating or based on thorough research, social change. representing or supporting an extreme.

Forgive. verb. stop feeling angry or resentful toward someone for an offense, flaw or mistake. cancel a debt. used in polite expressions as a request to excuse or regard indulgently one’s foibles, ignorance or impoliteness. 

Aphiemi. greek. literally means to let go off, or to pardon. ceasing to feel resentment toward him because of his offense AND GIVING UP ALL CLAIM TO RECOMPENSE. 

I first heard the term ‘radical forgiveness’ when I watched this super dope YouTube clip about being unfuckwithable by Vishen Lakhiani. When I first saw the title for the video, I thought it was a joke. I clicked on it totally prepared to laugh. Then I saw that Mr. L was the founder and CEO of Mindvalley which is an educational company and figured this clip was about to get real. And it did.

The whole tone of the talk is that forgiveness is a personal thing. And it’s necessary to reach the ultimate level of unfuckwithability . Radical forgiveness suggests forgiving everything and everyone not necessarily to pardon them… but to excuse yourself and release any negative emotions so that you can be at peace. And to do so without any exceptions whatsoever.

There are multiple studies that have done that actually show physical improvements and a change in brain chemistry when a person is focused on forgiveness. You can learn more about the health benefits from the Mayo Clinic.

Also, a large part of radical forgiveness is forgiving yourself. He and other sources suggest that many people are actually held back by the way they feel about themselves even after radically forgiving other people. We have to understand that if our view of ourselves is negative, we cannot push forward. We cannot truly progress. Materials will constantly disappoint us even though that is what most people lean towards to amplify self-worth. Other people’s compliments won’t reach our hearts if we don’t feel good about ourselves. We have to understand that we are enough. We are worthy. Mr. L’s peer Marisa explains it wonderfully and has a simple solution.

Just start telling yourself that you’re enough. Write it in notebooks. Make it your screensaver. Use a dry erase marker to put it on all the mirrors in your home. Post it on your refrigerator. Just constantly remind yourself. Use it as an affirmation. Through that repetition, you’ll start to believe it and other things will start to fall into place.

To delve even deeper, it really helps to go back to the source or the cause of any negative emotions you have towards yourself or any grudges you may be holding. Process those events and feelings and then forgive where necessary.

She also explains that knowing you’re enough doesn’t mean that you have no room to grow. It’s not equivalent to being perfect. It’s more so realizing that you deserve to love yourself the way you are while constantly evolving. That it’s acceptable for you to love the process, the progress and every new form of you. This can only be done if you ignore what others say about you.

Everyone has their own way to live and they’re entitled to their own opinion but we take all things said about us and our character as a suggestion and nothing more.

Another great point made, which is also very much the center of The Wisdom Of Insecurity, is that we need to live in this moment and this moment only. Which technically is the only option. But that’s another conversation.

Staying in the present is a powerful form of biohacking. We all need inner space and a few moments of mindfulness each day. The way western culture is set up these days doesn’t really allow for that to happen. We are constantly told we need to focus and obsess over the future. We are taught to plan meticulously and work hard with no breaks and no sleep if we want to be successful. Ironically, since the inception of this idealistic way of living, anxiety and depression have also been steadily rising.

Another way to develop radical forgiveness is through empathy.

“Empathy is one of the greatest forms of intelligence.”

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. Try to think about why the people that hurt you, hurt you. Maybe they were going through a very tough time and projected their feelings on to you. Perhaps they suffer from a mental illness and have little control over their emotions and actions. Or maybe they simply didn’t know any better, which is often the case when it comes to abuse.

Having a why behind the action can help you put your feet in someone else’s shoes. With that empathy, forgiveness comes.

So this post was pretty jam packed with information. If you get a chance I really encourage checking out the links and learning more.

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About a 6 minute read.

A strong relationship starts with two people who are ready to sacrifice anything for each other.

The thought catalog gives 5 reasons having a boyfriend is awesome. Of course everyone is different but in a nutshell what they say is pretty true. The reasons include: constant snuggles (or other forms of affection. someone to vent to. the way he looks at you (or other ways of making you feel special). never feeling lonely. totally being yourself.

Without these 5 things in totality, there’s basically no point in being in a relationship. Now of course life happens. You’re having a bad day and you don’t really feel like engaging in conversation. Maybe you’re tired and need to be alone. Maybe you’re moody and you’re being a little short. These are, of course, okay once in a while, as we are all human. However, problems come when these things are constant.

Self-absorption has no place in a healthy, happy relationship. When you love someone truly, you know that they have needs too and you want to do everything in your power to make sure those needs are met. That’s where sacrifice comes into the picture.

Maybe you had a shitty day at work and you want nothing more than to just go home and go to sleep but you haven’t spoke to your loved one all day. Sacrificing a few minutes to tell them you love them or even just that you’re tired shouldn’t be too much to ask. It shouldn’t even feel like a burdensome sacrifice. It’s just being considerate and having open communication. Even more so when you know that your loved one is also having a rough time and could really use the affection.  If it feels like too much to ask… that’s a clue that being in a relationship maybe shouldn’t be an option right now.

Are you noticing that maybe your partner previously shared a lot with you but recently they are hardly telling you anything ? It could be that you’ve recently created an environment that makes them feel the need to filter themselves. Or maybe you’ve been making them feel neglected or unappreciated. Maybe they’ve tried to talk to you about it but you took it as an attack instead of a conversation. The loving thing to do would be to sacrifice a little time, and maybe some pride, if that’s in the way, to see what’s going on in their mind. When you truly love someone, you want them to feel like they can be themselves and like they can tell you anything without feeling antagonized in return. The keyword here is feel. Maybe you tell them that they can share anything with you. If you’re not making them feel that way though, it’s an issue. One of the main reasons people enter into a relationship is so they have someone they can be themselves with and someone they can share everything with openly, no matter how big or small. If this doesn’t seem appealing to you, maybe you’re not ready for a relationship. 

Also, if you find yourself saying (or hearing) that one isn’t the type to sacrifice or they often allude to the fact that you both need to just take care of yourselves, maybe that’s a sign that your relationship will never work out. After all, one of the reasons humans enter into relationships is so that they can depend on someone to take care of them and vice versa.

A relationship where only one person is constantly making these sacrifices is called a one-sided relationship. THIS IS WILDLY UNHEALTHY. Because when you’re in love, you should be willing to do anything in your power to make your significant other happy. Elite Daily lists 8 painful signs that point to the fact that you’re in a one-sided relationship. 5 and 7 are what hit me the hardest. If you’re constantly stressed out with your relationship, is it really worth being in ? Science has proven hundreds of adverse effects that come along with stress. If your life is already stressful, I’m sure you’re in a relationship in hopes to relieve some of that stress. Also, if you’re telling your friends what’s going on in your life and they’re saying things like, “what an asshole,” “man that’s fucked up,” “he ain’t shit,” and “you deserve better,”… but you’re defending and justifying his behavior…take that as a sign. A bad sign.

Maybe this post reminds you of your relationship. Don’t assume that he or she doesn’t love you. Maybe he or she does love and care about you. It could be that the problem is that he or she doesn’t know how to love. Or at the very least, maybe they don’t know how to love you the way that you need to be loved. If that’s the case, it is up to you to decide whether or not the relationship is worth it. “We accept the love we think we deserve.” It’s important not to have the intention to change the person or ‘teach’ them how to love you. That’s impossible. People need to be accepted for who and how they are. If you feel the need to change your partner… you probably shouldn’t be with them. If they recognize that there is a problem, on the other hand, and they choose themselves that change is necessary, they’re probably a keeper.

Also keep in mind that every relationship, both intimate and platonic, takes work. If you’re still in the ‘getting to know each other’ phase, maybe it’ll  just take some time to get used to each other and adjust accordingly. This is all my opinion from my experience of course. I thought I’d still share.

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About an 8 minute read.

We hear a lot about a woman’s intuition and how you should always trust it and how it’s never wrong. It’s such a pervasive phenomenon in American media culture. We’ve all seen a movie or a tv show where the woman can feel that her husband (or fiancé or boyfriend) is cheating but they just can’t prove it. As the plot goes on, the man is being extra sweet bringing his significant other flowers, telling her he loves her, they have amazing sex and everything seems good EXCEPT she still has this gut feeling that something is wrong. She tries to talk it over with her girlfriends who either tell her a) he’s the perfect man for her and she should stop tripping before she ruins a good thing or b) they agree that they should go on some kind of covert mission and bust him so they spend days stalking him and looking through his things.

It seems like since this is frequently portrayed on television that regular (for lack of a better term) women everywhere seem to always have this feeling that their man is also cheating and they must constantly snoop around to make sure he isn’t because they aren’t quite sure that they’re having the gut feeling too or if it’s the Taco Bell they ate before.

So then what is intuition ? Well and websters dictionary say that intuition is ‘the ability to understand something immediately, instinctively without the need for conscious reasoning. Many sources and people I’ve come across have deemed intuition as the sixth sense (not to be confused with the movie where the kid sees dead people).

The late Middle English translation denoted intuition as spiritual insight or immediate spiritual communication (where the seeing of dead people as a 6th sense originated from). However, like many things back in the olden, highly superstitious days, it was spiritually deemed due to the lack of scientific evidence. Because if you can’t explain it, it’s from the devil of course.

Psychology today has 3 separate definitions for what they believe intuition is: “1) Instinct is our innate inclination toward a particular behavior (opposed to a learned response). 2) A gut feeling – or a hunch – is a sensation that appears quickly in consciousness (noticeable enough to be acted on if one chooses to) without us being fully aware of the underlying reasons for its occurrence. 3) Intuition is a process that gives us the ability to know something directly without analytic reasoning, bridging the gap between the conscious and the nonconscious part of our mind, and also between instinct and reason.”

It’s also noted that the deep truths of yourself and the universe are most clearly revealed from intuition upon the moment you’re falling asleep and when you very first rise. Several articles allude to the fact that our dreams and our intuition are, in fact, one in the same. Both are said to stem from our unconscious or subconscious thoughts.

Prior to looking up information on the topic, I had my own theory on what intuition may be. So buckle your seat belts and follow me on this train of thought. Our brains have this enormous capacity to intake information. We see and hear and feel and smell so much more every single day, even hour than we even acknowledge. Compare it to your gmail account. At first, you get all kinds of junk in your inbox. No big deal because since you just started it, there aren’t many emails in general anyway. But as time goes on, you get some important emails that you must tend to, and you delete the ones that are nonsense. Then after a few months, gmail uses an algorithm of sorts and automatically starts filtering certain emails into spam or clutter based on your past behavior. If you’re like me, you check those folders like twice a year and very occasionally you find that something you needed was spammed or cluttered before you even saw it.

The same goes for our mind. When we’re toddlers we remember almost everything because well, there just isn’t much going on that young. Then the older we get, into grade school, we start deciding what information we learn that we need (don’t put forks in sockets or foil in microwaves) and information we don’t need (mom is mad because gas is $4 a gallon and Destiny at school knows all the words to Brenda’s got a baby from Tupac). Then once we’re in like middle school, our brains start automatically filtering info based on our past behaviors. Now we don’t even hear the weird kid in the corner during lunch time talking to himself and when our parents are yelling at us, it’s going in one ear and out the other. Then one day when you’re 25 and you’re sitting with your iPad at the table blogging while your 4 year old is screaming the lyrics to frozen and using the counter and dry erase markers as a drumset you suddenly remember why in 4th grade Ms. Caldwell died laughing when Desiree said orgasm instead of organism in science class.

So all of the information we ignore is still getting processed. It’s just doing so in the background and when the time comes where we need it, it feels as if it comes out of nowhere and we just can’t put our fingers on it.

Psychology today, in another artical on radical remission explains that humans have 2 different operating systems. System 1 is said to be the limbic and reptililian side of the brain. The one that makes us carnal and animalistic. Pure instinct. This is the part of the brain that scientists believe we developed in prehistoric times in order to survive before language developed. (Not my personal belief.) Then there’s system 2, which is slower,  but it’s the reasoning, rational part of our brains that we’re exercising on a regular basis. It’s said that 80% of our grey matter is working on system 1.

There has been several medical studies on the subject as well. A famous card study by some guy and a car buying study by some other dude. Both studies, and others, conclude that when people follow their intuition they’re about 60% more satisfied with their decision in the end. The people that take hours on end to reasearch and use logic end up not vey satisfied and feel mediocre and apathetic throughout life. You can read more about these here.

So why is intuition said to be a woman’s thing if it’s really just a brain thing ? In short, because ‘murica. Our society here in the western world teaches that intuition is purely animalistic and cannot be trusted. We are told that people who do things on a whim by using their gut feeling can’t be trusted and that they’re often crazy or it’s just women being naggin women. We’re taught that only logic and reasoning skills are valued and acceptable, especially in the corporate world where there’s so much stake.

In addition, since manly men have no feelings (refer to bender from futurama as the perfect example of acceptable male behavior) basing decisions off a FEELING is very homosexual unfortunately. Intuition is a kin to sensitivity which is paralleled to female behavior. Any man who partakes is immediately feminized.

If you’re a man who is secure and confident with your amount of testerone, or a woman who would like to fine tune their superpower, there’s much information on how to hone into intuition. Huffington Post says, “If you want to get in touch with [your intuition], you need solitude.” When you let your mind wander and block out the outside noises in a calm,relaxing environment, you’d be surprised with the information your brain digs up and throws to the front of the line. You can learn about how to access it here.

So the moral of the story: Listen to your gut. It’s where the second, more reliable brain is.


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Success Plan

[About a 5 minute read]

First things first.. What is a success plan and why the fuck should you have one ?!

Let us start with a quote from one of my favorite motivational speakers and best-selling author of Grow A Pair and People Are Idiots And I Can Prove It, Larry Winget. He says, “Nobody ever wrote down a plan to be broke, fat, lazy or stupid. Those things are what happen when you don’t have a plan.” His brutal honesty appeases me greatly. 

With the help of Mind Of A Winner : A success plan can be explained as a plan that defines what’s important to you, what you want to achieve and how to achieve it. I know, I know. You already know what you’re doing and it’s all stored in your mind and things are going great and everything will be okay and God has a plan and He has your back and you don’t need to take the time to actually write things down because you’re already super busy. Trust me, I’ve heard every excuse/explanation there is.

But hear me out… by developing a plan for your future (tentatively of course because nothing ever really goes as planned) you’ll be able to bask in an ambiance of security and control. And we all know that we’re capable of some crazy shit when we feel out of control and insecure.

So, with a success plan, if you ever find yourself in a quarter life crisis or a midlife crisis and you have no idea what to do with your life, you’ll have a handy dandy roadmap to guide the way ! Disclaimer: Having said plan doesn’t guarantee success. It simply, yet significantly, increases the likeliness that your life will go right… whatever right means for you. 

So now that we know what it is and why we should have one, what should it include ?  Well according to our friends over at Right.Com your success plan should include the following:

  • Are you currently happy and/or satisfied ?
  • If not, what needs to happen to make you happy or satisfied ?
  • What are your goals ?
    • Personal ?
    • Career-driven ?
    • Spiritual ?
    • Parental ?
    • Physical ?
    • Mental ?
  • What vision do you have for your life ?
  • What is your mission ?
  • What are your priorities ?
  • What are your core beliefs ?
  • What are your strengths ? Your weaknesses ?
  • How will you reach your goals ?
  • Do you need to acquire additional skills to meet those goals ?

Admittedly, it’s quite a bit of info. However, the more detailed you are the better. It’s worth thinking about and mulling over BECAUSE IT’S YOUR LIFE AT STAKE ! I’m sure we all want happy, productive, colorful lives that we can be proud of on our death beds. 

So of course, I’ve practiced what I’m preaching, so to speak. I’ve included all of the above in my personal success plan plus adding my own flare to it. Since knowledge is power, I’ve included information about the various mental health diagnoses I’ve received. Knowing more about them feels like unlocking the key to myself. I’ve also broken my goals into long term, mid term and short term categories. Focusing on the big picture all the time is very anxiety provoking so breaking things up into small steps works for me.

Also, because everyone needs a little encouragement I have my favorite quotes and scriptures along with tips on how to be happy, how to raise a confident daughter in a misogynistic world and should the time ever come…how to be a good wife (I’m not holding my breath though).

Since sharing is caring, here’s my actual personal mission statement. Maybe it’ll give you ideas or a jump start to creating your own plan.

I will measure my success by the level of my daughters’ happiness and the permanence of my own happiness. I will live honestly with a healthy balance between optimism, idealism, and realism. I will not be confined and bound by traditions, social norms and the unsolicited opinions of others. I will take responsibility for both my actions and my emotions. I will live a life I’m proud of. I will not tolerate disrespect or other toxicity on any level. 

As with any plan, it’s also good to occasionally check back in to see how you’re doing and to see if anything needs to be revised. I like to look at mine every day as a reminder and to make sure I stay on track from day to day. I’ve also inserted 20 self-reflective questions at the end of my success plan. A few of the questions are:

  • Have I done anything noteworthy lately ?
  • What motivates me ?
  • What bad habits do I want to break ?

They don’t relate DIRECTLY to my goals but in a round about way they’re very important questions. Are my bad habits getting in the way of my success ? Is a lack of motivation stifling my career goals ? Am I so bored that everything I do is without passion and unenjoyable ?

So to wrap this article up (for future reference, I’m really bad at concluding things) I would like to implore you all to make a success plan so your life sucks a little bit less or a whole lot less than it does now. 

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